Sunday, May 13, 2007

Mother's Day

I got the best Mother's Day gift in the world last night when my daughter called to let me know she was safe and sound in her new apartment. It took over 16 hours to get there and she sweetly called me at rest stops in Kentucky and Indiana and once on the road in Illinois. In a way I almost felt like I was on the road with her except I was home with computer access to check for sunset times in various states so she'd know if she needed to memorize a bunch of exits, etc. I hope that the next few years will be a great experience for her. She's been forewarned by people who have gone to law school about how hard it will be but that doesn't have to be a bad thing. I am once again an empty nester and I'm sure it will be an adjustment but it was relatively easy when she went to undergraduate school and that was after having her with me her whole life. This time she was only here for a little over 4 months. I'm sure part of why I have almost a greater sense of having an empty nest this time is because of the permanence. When she went to college I assumed she'd be home summers and didn't think of her as being an adult yet. It has sunk in that at 22 she's the same age I was when I got married and she's going to school 16 hours away in a car (three cheers for airplanes to close the distance). There is a sense of permanence I didn't feel when she was off before. I would so much rather it be like this though than for her to lack the confidence to move to far off ports as it were. I guess I'll wrap this up since Bill's taking me out for mother's day brunch. One good thing is Monday I have to go to the office and learn how to use a software add on and for at least 8 weeks work will be busy. Also, in there is my vacation trip to the mountains with Bill and I'm joining my sisters at the beach for a long weekend too. I guess my point is I won't have time to think too much about the whole empty nest business.


King (Kathie) said...


I'm so happy that your daughter made it safely. I hope you had a great Mother's Day! Also, the upcoming vacation plans sound wonderful.

Stay Strong


Anonymous said...

And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, "Speak to us of Children."

And he said:

Your children are not your children.

They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.

They come through you but not from you,

And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts.

For they have their own thoughts.

You may house their bodies but not their souls,

For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.

For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.

The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.

Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;

For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.
-Khalil Gibran, 1923

Well done, my friend. It seems to me that you sent Judith into the light, but she will always know the way back.
Love, K.